»How can you manage to
love, without touching?«
Pretty much everyone who knows about my Distance Relationship, asks me this question. I’m never sure what to answer them, because everything is interpreted differently by every individual.
I am not the one who should say or rate how to love or how to behave in a Relationship. But I can enumerate few things that seem important to me and my Karan.
Firstly a Warn: You shouldn’t get in a Distance Relationship or trust dubious people, that you don’t know, do not forget that me and Karan are not officially together, we are and will remain Best Friends!
In a distance Relationship you have only the moral support of the other one, not the physical one and if it’s hard co to cope with that from the beginning it’s going to tear one apart. It’s not everyones type of relationship.
Nowadays there are couples everywhere on the streets, in busses, in trains, in collage, seeing them and being in a Distance Relationship is a brutal emotional impact for oneself.
For standing such cases you need self control and the quality of ignoring.
Sometimes i catch myself asking ‘Why’ and starting to notice things Me and my loved one would do differently, in a random couple in the bus and do a whole damn philosophy about that couple. It can also lead to dispare, bad mood or dissapointment, what brings long term depression.
Let’s continue with these bad vibes:
Way to often I get back from work or from collage and I’m mentally down, my Man is at work and I need mental support. What do I do? I can’t do anything in a Distance Relationship, either you choose to let it out in someway (anything will work: Sports, drawing, singing or playing video games). All I can do is to wait until he is able to talk. Distracting helps but it’s not replaceing him!
Due to this I try my best to keep myself up, because it’s not me who has to do all the hard stuff, but him. He has to learn a whole new language, shift for a new country and many other things that simply demonstrates me that noone else could love me more.
Drawing the drawing above on songs which he sent me, makes it a little easier, because i let it out in a way or another. While drawing thoughts like if I could have »Just one touch« i’d be the happiest person, but is it really so? Once you feel something good, you want it again in a higher dose, so no i’d be happy only temporary, because i’ll need his touch more next time. But you NEED his touch…
Let’s turn to brighter sides, every couple, these days go on trips, festivals or on vacation together. Now if you have a good financial status that’s no problem i guess, but if you belong only to the middle class it gets pretty expensive, mostly if you live alone and have to save every penny (for the future).
Sometimes it’s even hard to look at pictures with couples. Seeing them so happy and knowing that »This could be me right now« is depressing even more. But these pictures can be aimed at, make GOALS!
We collect all these couple pictures with the goal of taking all of them personally one day. That was we have what to fight for, refusing to get moody and depressed because i can’t have it right now. It’s just as in life, you can’t have the most expensive phone on market because you got the new one a month ago. Having everything is relative.
Relying only on the fact that »one day« we will be together is taking a lot of faith and belief. We believe that we HAD to be together, if not we wouldn’t have got over the ‘Hard Times’ over which most couples split up.
One more thing that keeps us so close is the word »DEAR« that we are dear to eachother, a better word dose not exist to explain this feeling. It’s simply when you are used to every little detail of eachother.
Being Elegant is significant for a couple, it’s like a tag. A romantic dinner depends on the status of the relationship. If he likes it the old fashion way, he will invite you for a special dinner set up by his own hands, maybe with some surprises hidden. Even if he isn’t the old fashion way he brings you to a fancy restaurant. In each case you have a romantic dinner.
In a Long Distance Relationship such a thing is not really possible… unless you let your imagination play along and use technologies to make such a dinner possible. Video-calls are necessary anyway in a LDR, then why not preparing your favorite meals and have it infront of eachother in Skype or any other Video-call interface? Talking about things, eating, ‘feeding eachother’ and making jokes about smeared food on the lips, cleaned by kiss, from the one that cracked the joke.
Imagination can be a true friend in a Long Distance Relationship and as long as both of you accept the weird idea of doing something, noone else has to know about it. Your own little secret! I can only recommend such relationships, BUT you have to face the circumstances then and the following circumstances are a lot!
If you have your boyfriend beside you, love him, because you can, others can’t!
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